Check In On Your Strong Friends That Don’t Complain.

We all have those friends. The ones who seem to effortlessly navigate life’s challenges, the ones who radiate strength and always have a helping hand. They’re the ones we go to for advice, the rocks of our social circles. But here’s the thing: even the strongest among us need someone to check in sometimes.

Often, we fall into the trap of assuming that because someone doesn’t complain, they must be okay. They might not be the ones venting on social media or pouring their woes over coffee. But strength doesn’t equate to invulnerability. People who internalize their struggles can bottle up emotions, leading to unseen burdens.

So, why is it important to check in on your strong friends? Here’s why:

• Strength Doesn’t Mean Happiness: Just because someone handles challenges well doesn’t mean they don’t experience them. They might be facing personal issues, career troubles, or silent internal battles. A simple “How are you, really?” can open the door for them to share what’s hidden beneath the surface.
• Everyone Needs Support: We all go through tough times. Even the strong need a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on occasionally. Your friend might not ask for help, but that doesn’t mean they wouldn’t appreciate it.
• Bottled-Up Emotions Can Explode: People who don’t vent can build up a lot of pressure. This can lead to emotional outbursts, anxiety, or even physical illness. By checking in, you might be the one to help them release some of that pressure before it reaches a breaking point.

Here’s how you can check in on your strong friends:

• Be Specific: Instead of a generic “How’s it going?” try something like, “You seem quieter than usual. Is everything okay?” Specificity shows you’ve been paying attention and care about their well-being. See How Are You?
• Actively Listen: When they do open up, truly listen without judgment. Give them your full attention and validate their feelings.
• Offer Help, Not Solutions: Don’t try to fix everything. Sometimes, all they need is a listening ear and the knowledge that you’re there for them.
• Respect Their Boundaries: If they don’t want to talk, don’t pry. But let them know you’re always available if they change their mind.

Just because your friend doesn’t complain doesn’t mean they don’t need your support. Reach out, show them you care, and you might be surprised by what they share. Remember, true friendship goes beyond shared laughter and commiseration over life’s annoyances. It’s about being there for each other, through thick and thin, even for the strong and silent types.